Was the anus designed for anal sex?

This is a comment I received a while back in response to the "Exit Only" post.  I thought the question interesting enough that I wanted to post it, and my response on the main page.

AnonymousJune 23, 2014 at 4:06 AM

I've found this blog, and this page in particular very interesting. Do you consider that there could be some element of design or purpose to the fit of the anus to the penis or is this just a fortunate accident? Whatever, it's reassuring to think that I'm not entirely alone in thinking along these lines. The doesn't appear to be a persuasive logical alternative, when you consider the many gynecological disorders experienced by women and the fact that the vagina actually only need to be used a very limited amount of times in order to fulfill its function. And on the other hand you have all these couples who attest that anal provides the greater pleasure for them. Why all the desire and interest if it is not a natural function? I'd love for you to explore this in another post and see if others share this view as I feel you only hinted at the possibility here.

luvmywifesassMarch 11, 2017 at 3:10 AM
I think the function of the anus and rectum, that of retaining feces until such a time as it is to be expelled, are what make it better suited for frequent pleasurable sexual activity. The thicker, stronger muscle band around the anus cause it to be tighter, providing more stimulation, and to remain tight. Whereas the weaker, thinner muscle band of the vagina loses elasticity quickly, especially if a woman gives birth. Of course this is a common complaint of couples who practice vaginal sex.

The rectal valves, and their ability to move closer to the anus allow them to be pushed down onto the man's cock. When done correctly, it feels similar to the most exquisite oral sex. In my experience with my wife, I think this is involuntary and happens just before and during orgasm. This stimulation is something the vagina cannot compare to and causes the man to experience more complete ejaculation.

Speaking of more complete ejaculation, as I mentioned in the post, the rectum, being open ended also allows more complete ejaculation, as it allows the free flow of ejaculate beyond the rectal valves and into the woman's colon. The rectal valves then close as the man withdraws his cock, retaining his cum within her colon, where the beneficial compounds are best able be absorbed. Anal sex is far superior to the vagina in this regard, as the ejaculate is better retained and the colon provides for better absorption than the vagina.

So, I don't know if the anus evolved (or was designed by a creator) for the purpose of more pleasurable sex that also enhances bonding more than that of vaginal sex. All I know is it unquestionably does.

Exit Only?

In response to the last post I received the following:

"It's an exit not an entrance. His wife is obviously suffering enough without making her do something painful and unnatural. Many people have discovered to their cost too late how harmful this activity can be, you only have to speak to any doctor about it.  This woman needs counselling and support not abuse."

Oh please, many women find anal sex a pleasurable alternative to vaginal when health issues cause vaginal sex to be uncomfortable.

As far as the, "It's an exit" argument, what is there about the design of the anus and rectum that makes one assume this?  To the contrary, if you look at the below illustration, which is shaped more like a penis, the vagina or the rectum?  Which one is open ended and looks like it could accommodate a larger penis?  The vagina is closed ended.  It can be uncomfortable or even painful for a woman if a man hits the back wall of her vagina during intercourse.  If a man ejaculates while the head of his penis is against the wall of the vagina, it can be difficult to ejaculate fully.  He may even experience a retrograde ejaculation, where semen is forced into the urinary tract.  As the rectum is open ended, the man can penetrate the woman fully and experience complete ejaculation.  As well, as the rectum is tighter, the woman can feel each surge of the man as he ejaculates.


As my wife and I have been having anal sex for nearly 22 years, I'm just wondering when this harm will come to her?

Three Years and Counting

As of last July it's been three years that my wife and I have been having exclusively anal sex. During that time we've had anal sex nearly 700 times (684 to be exact). And, her ass is just as tight as the first time I fucked it. Neither one of us has any interest in vaginal sex anymore. To us, anal sex is just that much better.

Not to gross anyone out here, but I thought it would be interesting to figure out just how much cum I've shot in her ass in that amount of time. Taking the conservative measure of a tablespoon of cum per load, multiplied by 684, that's more than 2.6 gallons of cum I've pumped in my wife's ass in that amount of time. That's more than 9 liters for my friends on the metric system.

My wife still prefers to ride my cock while sitting cowgirl, but she has also come to enjoy being pounded hard and deep in the missionary position, with her legs almost behind her head. This is something I could never do in her vagina, as I always bottomed out, causing her pain. She has no problem taking my entire cock balls deep in her ass though.

So, once again, anyone concerned that anal sex is somehow going to wear your lady's asshole out, or that you will make her sick cumming in her ass, there is no reason for concern. My wife and I are living proof. I just hope others can learn to enjoy the intimacy anal sex provides.

Anal Sex Q & A

I sometimes receive e-mail regarding anal sex. I try to answer each and every e-mail I receive. I thought I would post a few of the questions I've received, and my answers. Please, send me your anal sex related questions, and I'll try to answer them here.

Q. Anal sex isn't natural, is it?

A. What defines natural, pro-creation? By that standard only vaginal sex would be considered "natural." How many who make this statement in reference to anal sex, have oral sex? In my opinion, what is natural is that which can be done without harm. For example, smoking cigarettes might be considered not "natural." Anal sex meets this criteria for naturalness.

Q. The rectum wasn't designed for anal sex, was it?

A. I would like to address some of the more common myths surrounding anal sex. The anus opens and closes many thousands of times during a person's lifetime. This is it's function. My next statement is not meant to be crude, I'm just illustrating a point. Taking into account the average sized bowel movement is approximately the same size as the average sized penis, why wouldn't the rectum accommodate a penis? Some say, the rectum is only for waste removal; some sort of one-way valve. However, there is nothing about it's design that supports that theory. The Sphincter muscles can be controlled to allow the insertion of an object, just as they are controlled to allow the removal of one.

Q. I've read that the lining of the vagina is tough and stretches, while the lining of the rectum is fragile and tears easily, is this true?

A. The wall of the of the vagina is tough. It was designed to stretch to allow the passage of a baby. The rectum, on the other hand, only needs to stretch to accommodate something the size of a bowel movement, or a penis. As to the fragility of the rectal wall and whether it tears easily or not, all you have to do is eat a lot of peanuts to realize the lining can't be that fragile, as it feels like a razor blades when you have a bowel movement. Now, I'm not going to say the rectal lining isn't going to tear if you cram a baseball bat in there and work it vigorously. However, after 16 years of (often vigorous) anal sex with my wife, she has never experienced bleeding, tearing, or discomfort as a result of anal sex; and my penis is larger than average. Certainly, millions of people have anal sex every day without harm.

Q. Will anal sex cause the anus stretch and cause incontinence?

A. Once again, the anus was designed to open and close hundreds of thousands of times over a lifetime. I have never seen a documented case of penile/anal sex causing incontinence. Certainly, if you are going to shove that ol' baseball bat in there, you might expect to have some problems. Although I have seen post by doctors who say it may cause these problems, I have seen many more that say it will not. As well, I have never seen a post by a specialist, say a proctologist, who says penile/anal penetration will cause this type of damage. The simple fact of the matter is, the anus was designed to accommodate something the size of a penis.

Q. I heard anal sex causes rectal/colon cancer?

A. This is a possibility if the male is infected with the Human papilloma Virus (HPV). If so, you would also be at risk of receiving cervical cancer from having vaginal sex with that partner. Many doctors now recommend all girls 14 and over get immunized against HPV. HPV is a sexually transmitted disease, but not in the traditional sense, and may not show up in some STD screenings.

Q. Is it safe to cum in her ass?

A. Barring STDs, there is no danger in unloading in her ass. I've cum in my wife's ass thousands of times.

Q. Isn't anal sex is prohibited by God/the Bible/the Koran/Etc?

A. I'm not a theologian, go ask your pastor, rabbi, priest, etc. I'm only addressing the physical/psychological aspects of anal sex.

Q. If I want to have anal sex with my wife/girlfriend, does that mean I'm gay or bi-sexual?

A. Simply put, no. You are only gay or bi-sexual if you want to have sex with another man.

Q. What if I enjoy it when my wife/girlfriend stimulates me anally, am I gay or bi-sexual?

A. Although this isn't my thing, the same answer holds true: You are only gay or bi-sexual if you want to have sex with another man.

Injecting it Deep

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It's been somewhat of a dry spell for the last week (for us anyway). This morning we found out why, she started her period. She has irregular periods, so you never know when one is coming, unless she's particularly moody.

Anyway, now that the PMS had subsided, she was ready for action again. Yes, that's another benefit of anal only sex, her period really doesn't effect us much.

I lubed her sweet ass and got in the missionary position. Five minutes later, I she had her legs almost behind her neck and I was plowing her ass full-force. She was really starting to get into it, but hadn't cum yet. I had blown a load in her ass already, quite a lot actually, and was ready for more. (Yes, I know it's a little strange, but it's not uncommon for me to have multiple orgasms in my wifes ass, sometimes as many as four, without needing a break. Some guys have all the luck.) Anyway, the phone rang. As I was banging the hell out of her ass, we weren't answering it. The answering machine picked up and we heard that a friend of ours was in a pretty serious car crash. That put the brakes on. She picked up the phone, as I pulled out of her ass.

We went to the emergency room to pick our friend up. He was pretty sore, but seemed as if he'd be okay. By the time we got home, it was late. I guess the last anal session will have continue tomorrow.

My Wife Almost Always Gets Horny

My wife almost always gets horny when we have sex. If she's not in the mood, she's usually happy to accommodate me. But more often then not she gets into it. We were laying in bed the other day. I was spooning her, so it was impossible to hide what I was thinking about. "You can do my butt, if you want," she said. That seemed like a less then enthusiastic invite, but I reached for the lube on the headboard and applied a generous amount to her backdoor. I placed the head of my cock against her asshole and she slowly began to loosen up as I pushed into her. Once I was balls deep, I sat there for a second, letting her adjust. Slowly I began to withdraw my cock and work it back in. This went on for several minutes before she said, "Wait. I want to get on top."Most of the time my wife likes to sit on my dick facing me. This time, she turned around, reverse anal cowgirl style. When I reached around to play with her clit, she was dripping wet. She grabbed her dildo off the headboard and worked it back and forth across her clit, not yet putting it in. I reached around and fondled her breasts while watching her ass slide up and down on my cock. She sat all the way down on my cock, then inserted her dildo. I could feel it sliding into her wet cunt through the thin membrane separating her tight asshole. Once fully inserted, she just sat still for a moment. I knew she was experiencing a small orgasm. I could feel her sphincter tighten around my cock, signaling the end of her orgasm. My cock was hard as a rock buried up her butt. She then began to work her ass back and forth on my cock. Not so much an up and down (in and out), but back and forth with my dick buried all the way up her backside. I could feel her working her dildo in and out of her cunt. I moved one hand from her breast to her clit and began rubbing it. She became more wet and began bouncing up and down on my cock full force. I felt her ass begin to tighten and knew she was about to have a huge orgasm. She pushed her ass as far down on my cock as possible. I couldn't hold out any longer. I came deep up her butt as she had her own orgasm. She removed her dildo from her pussy and rolled to the left. I rolled with her, my cock still in her ass. We lay like that for several minutes, my cock softening. I kissed her shoulder and told her I couldn't believe I was so lucky to have a wife who loved anal sex. She said he was the lucky one. I've got it so good!

To Much Work and No Play

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Anal Only? There is some fine print...

We're working on some home improvement projects. After a full day of work and several hours of that, we were beat. When we got in bed she began fondling my cock. Then she went under the covers and gave me a blow-job. Although I was beat, she brought out the best in me. She gives incredible head. She only recently became interested in learning how to deep-throat, and after only a couple of sessions, she mastered it. I came in just a couple of minutes, and she swallowed. It worked out well, as neither of us had to get out of bed to clean-up.

I know this is an "anal only" blog, but I mean that only to the exclusion of vaginal sex. The wife wants to try and get pregnant toward the end of the year, which means we'll have to take her butt-plug out of retirement and the anal streak will end; for a while anyway. Until then, I think it's safe to say we'll continue to have "anal only" sex.

She keeps saying, "I really wish we could get pregnant with you fucking my ass." And, I do too...

ANAL UPDATE

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Horny Wife

My wife is a anal nympho! It's pretty common for us to have anal sex five times a week. We usually supplement that with some oral sex in which I use my fingers in her ass. However, this week she only wants my cock where is belongs; in her hot tight ass. We've had anal sex ten times in the last seven days. Last Friday, we had anal sex once. Saturday we had anal three times. Sunday we had anal twice. Since, we've had anal every day. I hope to keep the blog updated with more details in the near future.

How We Started Our Anal Adventure

I had been interested in anal sex for a long time, but my wife and I never really talked about it. I slipped once (really) and my wife screamed in pain. It seemed obvious she wasn't interested in anal sex.

We had been married about a year when I found a video in a parking lot. The video didn't have a label on it. I decided to take it home and see what was on it. I mentioned to my wife I had found the video, as I put it in the VCR (yes, this was a number of years ago). On popped a porn video with a lady getting gang-banged by about eight guys. I apologized to my wife and quickly shut the video off. My wife, who is generally quiet reserved said, "Don't throw it away." This video wasn't like any of the soft-core stuff we ever watched (the free videos you get when you order from Adam & Eve).

Later that evening, we were getting into bed and my wife asked me to put the video in. She got into some lingerie while I turned on the TV and put the tape in the VCR. I think the movie was called "Between the Cheeks". The woman in the video was getting gang-banged and taking it in every hole. I don't know how much of the video we watched before we fucked our brains out, the way you do when you're doing something naughty.

A few days later, my wife suggested I put the video in again. I did, and we watched a scene in which a woman was analled by something like four guys. My wife watched intently and became very horny. We started to have sex in the doggy-style position. As I was slowly working it in and out of her, I pulled my cock out of her pussy and rubbed it over her asshole. She moaned slightly and actually angled her butt back. I continued to alternate between fucking her pussy and rubbing my cock against her asshole. My wife rolled me over, got on top, and fucked my brains out. We both had incredible orgasms.

The next night my wife wanted me to put the video in again. I did and we watched another hot scene where a woman was getting fucked up the ass. Once again, my wife was wet as hell and we began to fuck. She wanted to do doggy-style again, which was somewhat unusual for her. Once again I began removing my cock from her pussy and sliding it across her asshole. My wife began moaning and lowered her ass. I placed my cock against her asshole, and we both just sat there for a second. Then she began to push backward. It seemed like it took forever just to get my head in her ass. It went in with a pop. My wife came like she had never cum before, which caused me to do the same, right up her ass! We both collapsed, and lay there together, shaking. I couldn't believe I had just cum in my wife's hot ass.

For the next two weeks or so, we had anal sex every day. Each day she was able to work my cock deeper into her ass. It took about a two weeks until I was able to fully bury my cock in her ass, my balls against her cunt. We both had another mind shattering orgasm. We fell to our sides, my cock still in her ass. We lay like that for about ten minutes. Even though I had just blown my load in my wife's butt, my cock remained rock hard. My wife began working her asshole, pushing out, then pulling in. It was like she was sucking my cock with her ass. After a couple minutes of this, I told her I was about to cum. We both came again. I couldn't believe I had cum in my wife's ass twice in less than 30 minutes. We continued to lay like that, my cock still rock hard. It was like I was 17 again. After about ten minutes, my wife said she wanted to try the missionary position and see if I could fuck her ass as hard as she likes me to fuck her pussy. I took my cock out of her ass for the first time in nearly 45 minutes. She lay on her back, putting her legs over my shoulders and I slowly inserted my cock back into her ass. She now easily took my cock, her asshole having been stretched. My wife was hornier than I had ever seen her before. She asked... No demanded I fuck her ass hard. I was still rock hard and slammed my cock into her ass for a good ten minutes. She must have come five times (before this she rarely had multiple orgasms). Then she had a huge orgasm, and I let go too. My wife passed out. I couldn't believe I had cum up my wife's ass for the third time in about an hour, and gave my wife an orgasm that made her pass out.

We were hooked. My wife said she had never had orgasms like she did when we had anal sex, and I could not believe the smooth, tight feeling. I think we both enjoyed the naughtiness of it. For the next three months we must have had anal sex just about every day... at my wife's insistence. During this time she must have had at least ten orgasms that caused her to pass out.

Several months later, I went to the adult bookstore and picked up a dildo for her pussy and some better lube (we had been using KY Jelly). The first time we used them, she sat on top of me. My cock was in her ass, as she inserted the dildo into her cunt. It made her ass feel even tighter. She literally slammed her ass down on my cock as I squeezed her incredible tits. We both came in minutes. She passed out, falling backward. When she did, she squirt all over. My wife had never had a squirting orgasm before, and it was incredibly kinky.

My wife and I have been having anal sex for about 16 years now and our sex life is hotter than ever. We have anal sex about five times a week (her period isn't even a concern when you're using the back door). It's our dirty little secret. We like to wonder who else we know might be having anal sex as well. Aside from her dildo, we have not had vaginal sex in about six months.

Sometimes we enjoy inserting anal balls, called Vibro Balls, into her ass. She then sits on my cock, places her dildo in her cunt, and rocks back and forth until we both cum. Anal sex was the beginning of a new sex life for us. We've tried some other things, but anal has remained our favorite. Some of the other kink makes for good foreplay, but that's for another story...