I know it's been a long time since I posted an update.
Last July marked five years since my wife and I decided to forgo vaginal sex altogether, instead opting to have anal sex. In that time, we've maintained our thee to five times a week schedule. She's not as amorous during PMS or during her period, but usually manages to get her ass off on my cock three times a week even then.
It seems incredible to us that more couples don't, at least, practice anal sex on a regular basis. In the time I've had this BLOG I've communicated with about a dozen couples who only practice anal sex, and a couple dozen more who incorporate it in their lovemaking each time. There do seem to be a lot of couples who have anal sex about 50% of the time though. Interestingly enough, this is the average in some places, such as Rio de Janeiro, Brazil.
I do think anal sex is at least gaining more popularity. Perhaps it's due to the prevalence of anal sex in porn. Perhaps it's due to more societal acceptance. Whatever the case, more and more couples are incorporating anal sex into their lovemaking.
Statistics show that at least 46% of women have tried anal sex, and nearly 33% report having it regularly. Yet, a Journal of Sexual Medicine survey found that, of those women having vaginal sex in their last encounter, 65% reached orgasm. Of those receiving oral sex it was 81%. But of those receiving anal sex, 94% reported reaching orgasm.
So, why aren't more couples practicing anal sex if it's the best way to achieve orgasm? I think it comes down to this quote by Toni Bentley:
"A man must have confidence in himself and his cock, to fuck a woman in the ass. If he does not have this control, his cock will direct the action; he will move too quickly, hurt the once-willing woman, and rarely, rightly, will he be given a second chance."
If done correctly, anal sex can be a more pleasurable experience than vaginal. However, done incorrectly (especially until the female is able to achieve orgasm though anal sex), and anal sex will be equated to an unpleasurable experience in her mind that will take much to overcome. I think the number of couples who regularly engage in anal sex would be at least double.
Taking your time, listening to her and to what her body is telling you, and lube are all keys to successful anal sex. You shouldn't expect to have full penetration the first time you try anal sex. The first time my wife and I had anal, we both orgasmed when my head "popped" past her spinchter. It took a week of daily sex sessions before she could accept me fully. I am fortunate in that she easily reached orgasm each time. In short time, anal sex was a regular part of our lovemaking.
Social conditioning is one of the hardest things to overcome when it comes to most women enjoying anal sex. Even more, I believe she needs to desire anal sex before attempting it. If she's open to watching porn, some of the couple oriented anal movies may go a long way to putting her at ease that anal sex is just another form of sexual expression. If not, subtle fondling of her ass during vaginal intercourse or oral sex will heighten her desire. Hopefully, her body language will let you know she wants more. I hope to post more about this in the near future.
Hopefully the trend toward anal sex with continue and more couple will learn to enjoy the ultimate orgasm through anal sex. Toni Bently put it this way:
“I am sitting on the threshold. Perhaps this is the final paradox of God’s
paradoxical machinations: my ass is my very own back door to heaven. The Pearly
Gates are closer than you think.”
