Thursday, February 21, 2013

Exit Only?

In response to the last post I received the following:

"It's an exit not an entrance. His wife is obviously suffering enough without making her do something painful and unnatural. Many people have discovered to their cost too late how harmful this activity can be, you only have to speak to any doctor about it.  This woman needs counselling and support not abuse."

Oh please, many women find anal sex a pleasurable alternative to vaginal when health issues cause vaginal sex to be uncomfortable.

As far as the, "It's an exit" argument, what is there about the design of the anus and rectum that makes one assume this?  To the contrary, if you look at the below illustration, which is shaped more like a penis, the vagina or the rectum?  Which one is open ended and looks like it could accommodate a larger penis?  The vagina is closed ended.  It can be uncomfortable or even painful for a woman if a man hits the back wall of her vagina during intercourse.  If a man ejaculates while the head of his penis is against the wall of the vagina, it can be difficult to ejaculate fully.  He may even experience a retrograde ejaculation, where semen is forced into the urinary tract.  As the rectum is open ended, the man can penetrate the woman fully and experience complete ejaculation.  As well, as the rectum is tighter, the woman can feel each surge of the man as he ejaculates.


As my wife and I have been having anal sex for nearly 22 years, I'm just wondering when this harm will come to her?

Saturday, February 2, 2013

Reader Letter: Substitute Anal for Vaginal?

An anonymous reader recently sent me this:

"I have a question or two that I haven't found the answers to here or anywhere else. My wife unable to have vaginal sex at all do to severe medical complications, a situation which has put extreme strain on our marriage. Is it possible that anal sex would make a satisfactory substitute in our relations?  Two issues really concern me. Is it really possible for women to genuinely enjoy anal sex? As I don't want her to be suffering, but to be able to look forward to sex as much as she used to. The other question is if so will she want to or be able to have sex as often as she likes?"
I sincerely believe anal sex is the answer you and your wife have been looking for. I don't think that you'll think of it as a substitute for vaginal sex, but as something even more intimate.  Anal sex requires more trust, and that you be in tune with one another's bodies more so than vaginal sex.

I can assure you that, properly introduced, your wife can enjoy anal sex even more than she did vaginal sex.  Once her body adjusts, she will be able to have anal sex as often as the two of you would like.  My wife and I have exclusively had anal sex three to five times a week for over six years now.  Prior to that, we usually started with vaginal sex then ended with anal.  In our 22 years of marriage, we've had far more anal sex than vaginal because we find it far more intimate and enjoyable.

Please keep me updated and let me know if you need any advice on introducing anal to her and helping her adjust.

LuvMyWifesAss