I sometimes receive e-mail regarding anal sex. I try to answer each and every e-mail I receive. I thought I would post a few of the questions I've received, and my answers. Please, send me your anal sex related questions, and I'll try to answer them here.
Q. Anal sex isn't natural, is it?
A. What defines natural, pro-creation? By that standard only vaginal sex would be considered "natural." How many who make this statement in reference to anal sex, have oral sex? In my opinion, what is natural is that which can be done without harm. For example, smoking cigarettes might be considered not "natural." Anal sex meets this criteria for naturalness.
Q. The rectum wasn't designed for anal sex, was it?
A. I would like to address some of the more common myths surrounding anal sex. The anus opens and closes many thousands of times during a person's lifetime. This is it's function. My next statement is not meant to be crude, I'm just illustrating a point. Taking into account the average sized bowel movement is approximately the same size as the average sized penis, why wouldn't the rectum accommodate a penis? Some say, the rectum is only for waste removal; some sort of one-way valve. However, there is nothing about it's design that supports that theory. The Sphincter muscles can be controlled to allow the insertion of an object, just as they are controlled to allow the removal of one.
Q. I've read that the lining of the vagina is tough and stretches, while the lining of the rectum is fragile and tears easily, is this true?
A. The wall of the of the vagina is tough. It was designed to stretch to allow the passage of a baby. The rectum, on the other hand, only needs to stretch to accommodate something the size of a bowel movement, or a penis. As to the fragility of the rectal wall and whether it tears easily or not, all you have to do is eat a lot of peanuts to realize the lining can't be that fragile, as it feels like a razor blades when you have a bowel movement. Now, I'm not going to say the rectal lining isn't going to tear if you cram a baseball bat in there and work it vigorously. However, after 16 years of (often vigorous) anal sex with my wife, she has never experienced bleeding, tearing, or discomfort as a result of anal sex; and my penis is larger than average. Certainly, millions of people have anal sex every day without harm.
Q. Will anal sex cause the anus stretch and cause incontinence?
A. Once again, the anus was designed to open and close hundreds of thousands of times over a lifetime. I have never seen a documented case of penile/anal sex causing incontinence. Certainly, if you are going to shove that ol' baseball bat in there, you might expect to have some problems. Although I have seen post by doctors who say it may cause these problems, I have seen many more that say it will not. As well, I have never seen a post by a specialist, say a proctologist, who says penile/anal penetration will cause this type of damage. The simple fact of the matter is, the anus was designed to accommodate something the size of a penis.
Q. I heard anal sex causes rectal/colon cancer?
A. This is a possibility if the male is infected with the Human papilloma Virus (HPV). If so, you would also be at risk of receiving cervical cancer from having vaginal sex with that partner. Many doctors now recommend all girls 14 and over get immunized against HPV. HPV is a sexually transmitted disease, but not in the traditional sense, and may not show up in some STD screenings.
Q. Is it safe to cum in her ass?
A. Barring STDs, there is no danger in unloading in her ass. I've cum in my wife's ass thousands of times.
Q. Isn't anal sex is prohibited by God/the Bible/the Koran/Etc?
A. I'm not a theologian, go ask your pastor, rabbi, priest, etc. I'm only addressing the physical/psychological aspects of anal sex.
Q. If I want to have anal sex with my wife/girlfriend, does that mean I'm gay or bi-sexual?
A. Simply put, no. You are only gay or bi-sexual if you want to have sex with another man.
Q. What if I enjoy it when my wife/girlfriend stimulates me anally, am I gay or bi-sexual?
A. Although this isn't my thing, the same answer holds true: You are only gay or bi-sexual if you want to have sex with another man.
I've really enjoyed reading your site. My wife and I only have anal sex about once a month. She really gets off on it but doesn't seem to want it any more then that. I don't understand. She says she has the best Os that way but doesn't want it more? She says it makes her sore for a couple days after. Do you have any suggestions to make her want it more?
ReplyDeleteI really envy you. I think anal sex is the best. Nothing in life feels better then cumming deep up her ass when she has a screaming orgasim. I would love to do her in the ass every time, like you and your wife.
Amer
I'm glad you enjoy the site. I really need to get around to updating it. It's now been over two years since my wife and I started having only anal sex.
ReplyDeleteTell your wife that, if she has anal sex more often, she won't be sore, and she will begin to enjoy it even more. I would recommend having anal sex at least once a week to keep her spinchter muscle limber, and to teach her how to control it. Once she has this down, that's when the real fun begins. She will then be able to concentrate more on her pleasure.
With any luck, like my wife, she will begin to enjoy it more and more until it's all she wants. Then your dream of cumming in her ass every time will be realized.
Me and my wife have been having anal sex about once a week for two years or so. She always had a great orgasm. I always had to wear a condom because she was afraid of what my cum might do to her.
ReplyDeleteI told her about how you and your wife have anal sex more then three times a week and you always cum in her ass. That night she let me cum in her ass. Let me tell you, it was incredible for both of us. For her, she said she could feel my cock throb inside her as I was cumming, then she felt a warm feeling. This made her orgasm even better. For me the feeling without a condom was amazing. Her ass felt so smooth and tight. I'm sure I had the biggest orgasm of my life as my seed shot deep inside her ass.
The next day she was a little sore back there. But the day after she was the one who initiated anal sex. Since then we've only had anal sex (a total of four times). Every time she let me cum in her ass. She said that it sometimes gives her a case of the shits the next morning but it's worth it.
I don't know how long this will last. But I hope she decides she only wants to have anal sex like your wife. I would be perfectly happy to only fuck her ass from now on.
Aaron
Cool site. When we first started having anal sex we only did it about once a month, then twice a month, then about once a week. The other night my wife said she thought it was easier to have anal sex more often bacuse she was more used to it. She said she wasn't as sore after doing it once a week. I asked her if she wanted to do it a couple times a week and she agreed. She really started to relax then and had some great orgasms. She even passed out a couple of times. Now if I start in her pussy she always wants me to fuck her ass.
ReplyDeleteI can't beleive for four or five years we only had anal once a month and in the course of a couple months, my wife always wants it. It's the greatest thing ever. I am so lucky to have a wife that loves anal sex so much.
Thank you for a great site.
Aaron,
ReplyDeleteSorry it took me so long to respond.
I'm glad to hear your wife decided to go au natural, and let you plant your seed in her back 40. She can probably avoid the unpleasant side effect of your cum in her bum by sitting on the toilet immediatly after anal.
Hopefully, your wife's seemingly new found affection for anal has lasted, as it has been some time since you wrote. I hope to add you to the list of anal only couples.
Luvmywifesass
Anonymous,
ReplyDeleteI often tell couples that the more anal sex they have, the easier and more enjoyable it will become. If a woman is willing to have anal sex three times a week for a month, I'm convinced she would be able to relax and enjoy it by the end of the month.
I don't know how long this has been going on for you (a couple of months I gather). However, if her orgasms are so intense that she is passing out, I think you have many more years of anal sex to look forward to.
Luvmywifesass
I sure wish you would post some new stuff.
ReplyDeleteI talked my girlfriend into only having anal sex for a month. Now she doesn't want to have anything to do with pussy sex.
We had anal sex about once a week anyway and she liked it. After reading your site I dared her to only have anal sex with me for a month. After about the fifth or sixth time she came really really hard. After that, she did it every time.
When the month was over we really didn't talk about it. We just kept having only anal sex.
So keep up the good work.
Fantastic! I'm glad to hear your girlfriend was willing to try anal only for a month. I always tell people the more frequently a woman has anal sex, the more comfortable and enjoyable it will become.
ReplyDeleteI'm excited to add you and your girlfriend to the ranks of anal only.
If you are a monogomous couple who are free of STDs, I hope she allows you to cum in her ass.
Check in once a while and let me know how it's going.
I'm glad I checked back. I wanted to let you know your advice worked. We are still having mostly anal sex and she is still letting me cum in her ass. As a matter of fact even if we have regular sex she usually let's me put the head of my cock in her ass and cum. The only difference is that now she goes to the bathroom after.
ReplyDeleteSo now she doesn't mind anal sex at all. We've been having it about three times a week. She just says she isn't willing to give up regular sex yet.
Aaron
Aaron,
ReplyDeleteThat's great. The fact you are having anal sex more than vaginal, and the fact that she is letting you cum in her ass, even when you don't have anal sex, leads me to believe you may soon be having only anal sex. I would suggest buying her a vibrator for her vagina. That way, she can still have something vaginally, and have you in her ass at the same time.
As well, by her letting you cum in her ass every time, her body will become used to having your cum in her ass. After a while she probably won't feel a need to go to the bathroom afterward. My wife used to have to go to the bathroom afterward or have the same problems your wife did. After a while, she no longer felt a need to use the restroom afterward. Now I often cum in my wife's ass at bedtime, and she just goes to sleep with my cum nestled deep in her ass. The next day, she feels no symptoms whatsoever.
Continued luck, and keep me updated.
Luvmywifesass
We (me and my wife) have anal sex once or twice a month. She likes it but she's afraid it will cause problems with her being able to hold her poop or that my cum in her ass will cause cancer or something. Are you saying these are not issues?
ReplyDeleteJust because vaginal sex produces children does not mean sex is any less a function of her ass than her vagina. You could fuck her ass four times a day for the rest of her life and she wouldn't have a problem holding her poop.
ReplyDeleteAs for cumming in her ass and cancer: There have been studies that indicate certain STDs can cause cancer, both cervical and rectal. However, if you are free of STDs, you can cum in her ass as often as the two of you like and not fear contracting cancer as a result.
It is because of the false information people spread that your wife doesn't indulge in anal sex more often. My wife preferred anal sex to vaginal for a long time, but felt she was "supposed" to have vaginal sex. Once she realized she was only doing it because she felt she had to, she was able to indulge her desire for anal sex without the (for us anyway) distraction of vaginal sex.
With any luck, you can convince your wife these concerns are completely unfounded, perhaps she will then feel comfortable engaging in anal sex more often, which (in my experience) leads to her wanting it more.
Luvmywifesass
Your site is fucking awesome. I didn't know there were other people like me and my girlfriend. She is not on birth control. We tried anal one time when I didn't have a condom. We both really liked it. It was the first time I ever came in her and the first time she ever felt anyone cum in her. It felt so fucking awesome that we started having anal sex one or two times a week. It felt so fucking good without a condom we quit fucking her cunt. Now she wants me to fuck her ass as much as I want to. Now that she is used to it I can fuck her ass harder then I ever did her cunt and cum in it every time without her getting pregnant. We fuck all the time now. We even did it eight times in one weeked.
ReplyDeleteWe're an anal only couple as well. Wife had a series of problems with the vagina and just got used to doing anal as a great substitute. Its a great secret just between us that we only do anal and oral, in somr strange way it has given us tremendous intimacy.
ReplyDeleteI agree! Anal sex does provide a special intimacy. As a couple, it's like you have a secret no on knows.
ReplyDeleteI had a longtime girlfriend that I introduced to anal. She was a total virgin before (ehe'd been with a girl a couple times), so I started playing with her bottom, wanting to let her keep her virginity. She really got into it, and eventually we started doing anal at least twice a day (we were like rabbits). Eventually she begged me to take her virginity. I did, but she still preferred anal. We did vaginal sparingly afterward. I miss those days!
ReplyDeleteThere's a common theme here. If a woman gives anal a proper chance, really dedicated and honestly for a month or so, most seem to adapt to it readily - even preferring it in many instances. This would make for an interesting study. Are women naturally wired for anal sex? The fact that there is such intimacy seems significant.
ReplyDeleteI just wanted to comment on the part about Christianity and anal sex. My wife and I are both practicing Christians and love anal sex. She prefers anal sex so much that it's about a 10 to 1 ratio of anal to vaginal. It's just too bad there is not more acceptance of this in the Christian church. She really doesn't have anyone to talk to about it.
ReplyDeleteMost likely your wife would prefer to only have anal sex, but feels like she has to have vaginal sex. She probably feels like this would be the expectation of those around her. If you would prefer to just have anal sex, saving vaginal for procreation, let her know this. I'll bet she'll be receptive to it.
DeleteIf you don't mind me asking, hwo did the two of you come to have anal sex, and for how long have you been having anal sex at this 10/1 ratio?
I agree. It seems unlikely that she wants vaginal sex at all if what you say is true. Like he says, save the vagina for procreation and keep it at that. The Christian Church (most of it anyway) is completely wrong in its condemnation of anal sex. Nothing in the bible forbids anything natural between a man and wife. And what do you mean she has no one to talk to about it? Doesn't she have you?
ReplyDeleteYou say its safe to cum in her ass and that she can probably avoid the unpleasant side effect of cum in her bum by sitting on the toilet immediately after anal. The thing is that even when she thinks its all gone my wife still complains the next day and she remembers this next time I ask for anal. More often than not now she insists on a condom which ruins the whole experience. You don't know how good you have it.
ReplyDeleteThis is a very interesting blog.
ReplyDeleteI wasn't surprised to come across it on the net. Anal sex has always fascinated me and I typically browse the anally related categories in any porn site. I do watch quite a bit. I realized there are a lot of other people who seem to have my fetish. My wife is really not interested in it and says that there must be a homosexual element in me that rears its head from time to time. It's her rear that I long for. I'm blessed to have a wife that sleeps like a log and I get to worship her very sexy ass at times. At times I even manage to cum inside her ass without her knowing till morning. It gets all so wet and juicy as she's relaxed in her sleep. I only wish she becomes an anal addict one day.. But it's unlikely because she has that view/idea about anal.
My question Is since you know so much about the sexual pleasures of anal sex for the receiver, why haven't you tried being stimulated there? Why isn't your ass trained? Or is it?
I really loved your blog. Mind you, this is the first time I've ever participated in a blog/forum of any nature. It amuses me to think that I've chosen an anal only blog to do so! I'm not at all happy that I'm doing this anonymously. I do apologize. Here's wishing you and your wife many more decades of anal ecstasy.